Perhaps you have found, as I have, how easy it is to say, “I love Jesus!” and still struggle with loving certain of the “brethren”.
When our brother or sister acts in a way that harms us, we may find our love walk is not what it should be.
Extending forgiveness that is complete and final is a bit more than a decision. The decision to obey God brings with it a series of confrontations with self that are not all that pleasant. We find that it takes a work of the Spirit of grace to bring the decision of the soul to fruition.
To the degree that we love one another is the degree with which we love God. Be not deceived. One is not real without the other.